That is so fucked up!

[oxfordtweed]

I was just checking my messages, and I came across this in my inbox:



That's just mean. Not that this person defriended me -- I think we've all defriended people -- but that LJ thinks that it would be necessary to tell me. What is the logic in having LJ tell you that you've lost a reader?

It's a Dear John letter, sent to you by the best friend of your now-ex.

Dear Mr X,

Sorry, things weren't working out between the two of you. By the time you read this, she'll have moved on. To someone else's bed. Mine. But don't take it too hard, because it wasn't you; it was her. She found you too boring and irrelevant. I hope you understand.

-LiveJournal


Okay, so it's not quite as bad as that. I think this person has only commented on my stuff about once or twice. But it just seems really random that LJ feels it necessary to tell me that they defriended me. That's really not something that I really needed to know, I don't think. If I defriend someone at 12:30 at night without telling them, it's probably because I don't really feel like I know them well enough to tell them.

Unfortunately, LJ sees things differently. LJ seems to feel that we need to take the blow to our ego/self-esteem/whatever. Knock us down a peg, or something.


I don't know. TL;DR, it seems weird that LJ sent me this email. Also, that the first option is "defriend this person back" sort of cracks me up. "Oh, yeah? You don't like me any more? Well... well... I don't like you, either! Haha!"

Comments

[a1cmustangpilot.livejournal.com]

Ahhh did they just start doing this today or something? I had to defriend someone the other day in one of those stealthy-deletes... great...

Also, that the first option is "defriend this person back" sort of cracks me up. "Oh, yeah? You don't like me any more? Well... well... I don't like you, either! Haha!"

Oh yes, it's only to add more insult to the injury, no? lol
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[mr-x-indeed.livejournal.com]

It has to be brand new. I've never received one of these emails before, and I've been around in one form or another since 2003.

If this were an old feature, I'd have received dozens of these by now.

[a1cmustangpilot.livejournal.com]

LJ is so weird. Now I have to make sure that I don't get notifications like that because in honesty, it creates unnecessary drama. It's just a readers list, not the end of the world. Darn thing. Thank you for bringing to our attention!

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[sakuya-baby.livejournal.com]

You gotta go into your options to change it.

[mr-x-indeed.livejournal.com]

It was never opt-out before, even if it isn't new. I've never seen that one before, and I know I've lost readers in the past.

[one-wicked-girl.livejournal.com]

WOW! That is weird.

[kimboosan.livejournal.com]

It's a Dear John letter, sent to you by the best friend of your now-ex.

Hahahaha! It so totally IS! Wrong, wrong, wrong. *shakes head*

This is why I have it set so I don't get these notices. It's just...disconcerting.

[mr-x-indeed.livejournal.com]

This is the first I've ever seen them, and I've been around since 2003. It must be a brand new "opt-out" option that just showed up before I registered this account.

[kimboosan.livejournal.com]

I really have no idea for sure; but I have not futzed with my settings in a loooong time, and I checked just now, and I was already "opted out" for receiving notification of any kind when my journal is unfriended. Strange that it would just now being showing up...or maybe it's just that no one has unfriended you in loooong time? :)

[writingvixen.livejournal.com]

I HATE that they opt out of crap rather than opt in. It's shady business practice and that's lame.

LJ is just trying to be cool and snarky with that and it's not working. Sometimes I hate this site, but I love the people too damn much.

[pipe-organ-wolf.livejournal.com]

Wow. Just goes to prove the internet's just like high school. Ugh.