oxfordtweed: (Ongoing - Sherlock)
Spotify, when I tell you to randomise my playlist, I do not mean that you should play item 1, then item 3, then item 2. Yes, that is technically random, but when there are 591 items on this playlist, you are allowed to mix it up a bit. :|


Mar. 28th, 2012 03:41 pm
oxfordtweed: (H2G2 - Tea)
Ryan is now on AO3. He's posting ponyfic.


oxfordtweed: (Martin Freeman - Aha!)
I'm not dead. Just haven't got much to say. Also, I've been working furiously on my big bang fic, which is eating my brain. It's about twice the minimum length, so yay?

Uhm, things. Nothing. Nothing much has happened at all lately. I did catch the oven on fire again a few days ago. There was that. I don't think Ryan ever noticed it, though.
oxfordtweed: (Watson - Groggy)
I started taking Zyrtech yesterday because my allergies have got so bad that it gets to the point that I actually can't see from how badly my eyes would water. Ten tiny little milligrams of it.

It says 'may cause drowsiness,' which okay. Things do that. I took the tablet around 9am, and made it til about 3pm before it I was damn near falling asleep at my keyboard. So I figured I'd go take a bath and maybe try to wake up a bit, since that does actually tend to help.

The next thing I know, it's 2am and I'm in bed. I think Ryan put me there, because I don't remember going there under my own steam. Or maybe I did and just don't remember.

The point is, holy fuck.

Now I'm starting to get a bit stuffed up again, but I can't take another tablet until around 9am. Because it says on the label. And I can definitely see why.
oxfordtweed: (Sherlock - Hi...!)
But where did the entry about Sherlock being in Minsk and all the panicky comments on John's blog go? You know, this entry?

Never mind that it looks completely different. But why did the entries change? Weird.

Sherlock's site still looks unprofessional and weird as ever, though. No changes there.
oxfordtweed: (Facepalm - Hilary)
I saw this, and the ensuing thread on LiveJournal, and wanted to say something there, but since it was already frozen, and most of the idiocy seems to be here on Tumblr anyway, I'm going to say this here.

Allow me first to preface this tirade with a small amount of information about myself. I am in a long-term, very committed relationship with a very loving and understanding man. I identify as asexual of the homoromantic variety. What this means is that I find it easier to form romantic bonds with other men, even if I'm not sexually attracted to them. My partner and I do engage in sexual activity, because he's very much a sexual person, and to deny him of something he considers a physical need would just be cruel. I have no tolerance for someone who will involve themselves with a sexual person and expect that person to give up their sexuality because you don't want to occasionally put your hands down the front of their pants. If you can't handle that, then you are not very well-suited for that person and the relationship will not work. But it also goes both ways. If you don't want to have sex, you should be able to tell your partner so and not worry about potentially being forced into it. But that's another rant for another day.

My point is that this secret that I've found has idiocy on all sides, and I intend to break it down line by line.

If they wanted to say they're asexual while fapping to slash and lusting after Doctor Who, whatever.

I have to say, this is not asexuality. This is repression. Asexuality is not the lack of a libido or sexual drive. It's the lack of sexual attraction. Fapping to slash, sure. But lusting after David Tennant or Matt Smith or anyone is by definition attraction. I call this attention-seeking rubbish, frankly, and the reason people don't take asexuality as an orientation seriously. And with this sort of behaviour going around, I can't blame them.

Then I came across those tumblr asexuals who think there's such a thing as sexual privilege and want to be considered queer and believe that rape is more traumatising to asexuals than sexuals.

I'm sorry, but WHAT? What? Seriously. WHAT? Sexual privilege? What is this? No, honey. Straight privilege, yes. Definitely. But to say that a gay or trans or whatever person has privilege over you is fucking ignorant and self-centred. Where the hell do you get off to say that? Go look up the statistics of hate crimes committed against gays, and compare that to those of hate crimes committed against aces, and tell me what you find. Here's a hint: a staggering imbalance in numbers with you coming out with all the privilege in the world.

And this idea that rape is more traumatising because of your orientation? Shut the fuck up. Rape is rape and it is always traumatising. I fucking dare you to say to someone whose rape was so violent that it left them paralysed, or to someone whose rape got them pregnant.

The idea of demisexuality, which is an identity based entirely on slutshaming.

First off, if someone wants to apply a label to themselves, why should it matter to anyone else? Even if they apply it just to alleviate some of their own confusion, it's not hurting anyone. They're just calling themselves a thing. So what? Unless they've publicly stated that they're than sexuals, where's the harm? Which, yes. A sickening amount of people on this end of the spectrum do say shit like this. And yes, slut shaming does happen, which is just uncalled for in any instance. You can't claim that this group of people have privilege over you if you're going to claim to be better than them in the same breath. Everything about this sentence fragment is just stupid and ignorant.

Asexuals that 'come out' to their parents and are surprised at how easy it is.

Why do you need to come out to your parents anyway? Most parents would probably be thrilled to know that their kid isn't going to be out having sex and getting pregnant and contracting STIs and all that nastiness. Talk to someone who was beaten and disowned by their parents after finding the courage to come out as gay or as trans or anything else. Again, this is just attention-seeking rubbish. You're looking for asspats and confirmation that you're above those filthy, filthy sexuals. Fuck off.

Now, whenever I see people talking about being asexual, I privately assume that they're just homophobic self-absorbed slutshamers who are hoping they can claim they're being oppressed for online social justice cookies.

I have to admit, I get this feeling a lot whenever I see people talk about being asexual. I shouldn't, but look at all of the damage the asexual community is doing to itself through slut shaming and the trivialisation of rape and hate crimes. Is it any wonder people don't take a person seriously when they say they're asexual? Seriously, man.

Unless they're actually completely uninterested in sex and don't talk about how much more mature they are for not having sexual interest and don't suggest that gay sexuals have privilege over straight or aromantic sexuals. Which describes about 5% of asexuals in fandom or out.

Oh, internet statistics. Can you back up that five per-cent? Can you cite your sources? I'd like to see where you got that number? Yeah, there are a lot of bandwagoners, but that can be said for anything. The convert does tend to be more vocal than the long-time believer. What you're hearing on the internet is just the rumblings of the very loud, and hopefully very few people who have just discovered asexuality and social justice. I actually didn't start to hear this sort of nonsense until I joined Tumblr and started poking around AVEN. As with any group of people, I've no doubt that most people who label themselves asexual or demisexual or whatever are perfectly sane, level-headed people.

PS: I find it hilarious when they go on about how X character must be asexual. I'm looking at you Doctor Who and Sherlock Holmes fandoms.

To be fair, this happens for homosexuality as well. How many people insist that X and Y must be banging one another, because look at the UST.

The asexual community is only hurting itself right now. I used to be fairly vocal about it, but quieted down when the mere mention of my identity garnered accusations of ignorance and slut shaming. This is probably why you don't hear the sane side of the community, actually. It's just easier to keep quiet and avoid being associated with these wankers, when it comes down to it.


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